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65 Days


Sixty-five days ago my life changed forever and not in a good way.  Sixty-five days ago my mom, my best-friend, lost her battle to stage 4 lung cancer.

She was only 62 years old and died on November 2, 2014.

My mom beat the odds.  She was given 5 months to live when diagnosed on October 19, 2012.  This fact was kept a secret from us.  I understand why it was her wish, however if I had known that, I would have spent every weekend with her and not every second or third one over the next two years.  I am not saying I disagree with her choice.  It was her choice to make.  I just wish I had more time to spend with her.

I miss my mom.  I miss our random chats about nothing and everything under the sun.  I miss her advice she would always give me on sewing and cooking. I miss her voice.  Her hugs and kisses.  Her huge loving heart.  I miss everything about her.

 

 

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Guest Blog: The Lessons I Learned From My Wife Having Cancer


Today’s blog comes from guest blogger Cameron Von St. James. Cameron writes on the lessons he learned while his wife battled cancer. Yes. I said battled. She won. She kicked cancer to the curb 7 years ago and told it never to return.

 

The Lessons I Learned From My Wife Having Cancer

November 21, 2005 was the day when my wife, Heather, was diagnosed with malignant pleural mesothelioma. I was devastated, but I had no choice but to step up and be my wife’s caregiver. Just three months earlier, Heather had given birth to our first and only child, our daughter Lily. Instead of celebrating her first holiday season, we were beginning a long, difficult journey to beat cancer.

Heather couldn’t work after she was diagnosed, and I had to scale back to part time. I had many responsibilities that wouldn’t allow me to keep a full time job. I had to make my wife’s doctor’s appointments. I had to take care of my daughter, and I had to make travel arrangements to Boston, where Heather would receive treatment from a renowned mesothelioma specialist. I was overwhelmed with my responsibilities, and despite my best efforts to remain positive, sometimes my fears got the best of me. I couldn’t help but picture the worst-case scenario, my wife dying and me being left alone and broke to raise a daughter who would never know her mother. There were many days that I felt I couldn’t go on.

It is difficult to cope with cancer without a support group of friends, family, and strangers. These people provided financial assistance and comforting words to help us get through the tough times. My strongest advice to any caregiver or cancer patient is to accept every offer of help and support that comes your way. I had to learn the hard way that there is no room for pride in a cancer fight. Even the smallest offer of help can be a weight off your shoulders, and will remind you that you are not alone in the fight.

Being a caregiver is difficult, there is no getting around that. It’s a job that you cannot walk away from. To get through it with your sanity, use all the resources available to you, and it will be easier. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Allow yourself to have bad days, but above all else, never give up hope for a better tomorrow.

After Heather received mesothelioma chemotherapy, surgery, and radiation, we started the process of recovery. Against all odds, she beat this terrible disease, and has been without cancer for seven years now. We hope that our story of success in the face of cancer can help inspire others currently struggling through their own cancer battles. Never give up hope, and never stop fighting for the ones you love.

You can read more of Cameron’s posts at http://www.mesothelioma.com/blog/authors/cameron/

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My week in a nutshell and FSNI results


Ok.  So I forgot it was Friday and I forgot it was the Friday for the Friday Night Sew-In.  It has been a whirlwind rollercoaster ride the past 6 days.  Six days ago I found out my Mom has a brain and lung tumor and was having emergency brain surgery to remove the tumor.  Her health is very good aside from this.  The Head of Neurology was going to do the surgery and assured my parents he has removed hundreds of these types and that there was an almost perfect success rate.I decided I needed to make her a quilt.  I had some jelly rolls so I thought a simple lap size line quilt would be perfect.  The Mr. convinced me to make it big.  I didn’t have enough backing for a large quilt, so I rushed off to Walmart and purchased a 300 thread count flat king sheet.  I got this far prior to the surgery.  Its sitting on my queen size bed.  It will be approximately 65 x 80 inches or thereabout.

Mom had her surgery on Wednesday. I was and still am in shock.  Stunned. Scared.  It’s not something that is easy to process and I can’t imagine how it has been for her.  Lucikly, the tumor was not in her brain.  Only pushing against it.  The surgery took 1 hour and 45 minutes in total.  Twenty-four hours after the surgery, she was up walking and climbing stairs.  Assisted by her Physio Therapist of course, but mobile so fast.  Mom wa discharged today.  Discharged 48 hours after having brain surgery.  I am in awe at the level of care she received and how great she is doing.  She has definately exceeded my expectations.  My mom is my hero.  The strongest person I know.   Tonight, I managed to free motion half the quilt.  I wanted to present it to her tomorrow.  She knows about.  She will just have to wait another couple days for me to complete it.

I love you mom!

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In Loving Memory of my Opa


On September 2nd, my Opa – Heinz Frederick Dolde passed away in his sleep peacefully from cancer.  He was just shy of 81 years.

My Grandfather taught me many things in life, but mostly how to love and that it was ok to make mistakes as long as you learned from them.  He taught me the importance of living a healthy active life.  He taught me about so much about life and he made the best potato pancakes in the world.

I know I am blessed to have had him in my life for almost 36 years.  Not everyone is that lucky.  It just hurts so much now that he is gone.

Rest in Peace Opa. I miss you and I love you.

 

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Cancer Sucks


I have no sewing stories to tell today.  I apologize for my mini-rant.

I am really sick of cancer.  I fortunately, do not have it.  I do however, know many people who do and it’s just not right.

My Grandfather

A friend from college

A friends brother-in-law just passed away from its complications.

Lady I used to work with had a double mastectomy.  Another lady had cervical cancer.

Cancer sucks.  That’s all I have to say.

 

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