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Guest Blog: The Lessons I Learned From My Wife Having Cancer


Today’s blog comes from guest blogger Cameron Von St. James. Cameron writes on the lessons he learned while his wife battled cancer. Yes. I said battled. She won. She kicked cancer to the curb 7 years ago and told it never to return.

 

The Lessons I Learned From My Wife Having Cancer

November 21, 2005 was the day when my wife, Heather, was diagnosed with malignant pleural mesothelioma. I was devastated, but I had no choice but to step up and be my wife’s caregiver. Just three months earlier, Heather had given birth to our first and only child, our daughter Lily. Instead of celebrating her first holiday season, we were beginning a long, difficult journey to beat cancer.

Heather couldn’t work after she was diagnosed, and I had to scale back to part time. I had many responsibilities that wouldn’t allow me to keep a full time job. I had to make my wife’s doctor’s appointments. I had to take care of my daughter, and I had to make travel arrangements to Boston, where Heather would receive treatment from a renowned mesothelioma specialist. I was overwhelmed with my responsibilities, and despite my best efforts to remain positive, sometimes my fears got the best of me. I couldn’t help but picture the worst-case scenario, my wife dying and me being left alone and broke to raise a daughter who would never know her mother. There were many days that I felt I couldn’t go on.

It is difficult to cope with cancer without a support group of friends, family, and strangers. These people provided financial assistance and comforting words to help us get through the tough times. My strongest advice to any caregiver or cancer patient is to accept every offer of help and support that comes your way. I had to learn the hard way that there is no room for pride in a cancer fight. Even the smallest offer of help can be a weight off your shoulders, and will remind you that you are not alone in the fight.

Being a caregiver is difficult, there is no getting around that. It’s a job that you cannot walk away from. To get through it with your sanity, use all the resources available to you, and it will be easier. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Allow yourself to have bad days, but above all else, never give up hope for a better tomorrow.

After Heather received mesothelioma chemotherapy, surgery, and radiation, we started the process of recovery. Against all odds, she beat this terrible disease, and has been without cancer for seven years now. We hope that our story of success in the face of cancer can help inspire others currently struggling through their own cancer battles. Never give up hope, and never stop fighting for the ones you love.

You can read more of Cameron’s posts at http://www.mesothelioma.com/blog/authors/cameron/

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Sunshine and Lolipops


On a recent trip to Cancun, the Mr. and I were blessed with watching this gorgeous sunset each night.  I do believe however, that he was getting fed up with my relentless drive for the perfect shot.  He would sit patiently on the bench drinking Corona’s beside me while I stood, kneeled, twisted and bent every way imaginable trying to get the perfect shot on my little Olympus E-PM1 camera.  He is a wonderful supportive man who puts up with my occasional bouts of insanity while trying new things.

I am still a beginner when it comes to photograpy, but this is my favourite photo I took of the couple hundred sunsets that week.

Sunset in Cancun over looking the Lagoon

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January 31, 2013 · 2:13 pm

Long time no post.


It has been too long since I have last posted, but I am ready to get back into the swing of things.  Originally, I planned for this to be a sewing only blog, but over the course of my writing, I have discovered many other things that inspire me and my blog will evolve to include those other things as well.

However, since I am at work writing this, this is all I have for now.

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My Inspiration


Many people have asked my why I chose “Inspired” as the name for my sewing adventure. I chose it because I am inspired.

As I am standing on the platform waiting for my train to pull in, I am surrounded by the songs of the red wing black birds that are playing in the dense overgrowth alongside the tracks. I watch them zoom up and down chasing each other and this brings tranquility to my morning.

Walking out of my house this morning, I was greeted by the first blooms in my front garden. The purple iris smells like Welsh’s grape juice. This brings back a memory of when I was a child and my mom asking me if I wanted some juice. Amazing that the scent of a flower is a trigger to a long forgotten memory.  Nature and my garden inspire me and gives me peace.

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My friend Stacy is an inspiration. She is making a living at her sewing and is always offering bits of advise and encouragement to keep me going.

Fabric inspires me.  I see a design and then get a completed image in my brain and I have to purchase it.

Strong women inspire me. Not physical strength, but strength to do what they want and what they need to do. Strong emotionally and mentally even if they were not always that way.  Women who will stand up for themselves and for what is right inspire me.

And most importantly, the MR. and rest of my family inspire me.  Without their belief in me and constant encouragement, I would not be where I am or who I am now.  I love you all so very much.

I am looking forward to my next sewing adventure.  Oddly enough, that is inspiring in its self.

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